1. Adolescents in intact families are less likely to become sexually active compared to peers in non-intact families. full details
2. Girls who experienced a parental separation during childhood are more likely to engage in early sexual activity. full details
3. Among girls in intact families, those who report having a close relationship with their fathers are less likely to engage in sexual activity. full details
4. Adolescents whose mothers were teens when they first gave birth are more likely to initiate sexual activity at an early age. full details
5. Youths who pledge to protect their virginity until marriage are more likely to delay sexual activity. full details
6. Youths who receive more adult supervision are less likely to engage in sexual activity. full details
7. Youths who engage in sexual activity are at an increased risk for depression. full details
8. Among teenage boys, those from intact families with frequent religious attendance average the fewest sexual partners. full details
9. Teens in intact families are less likely to become pregnant compared to peers in other family structures. full details
10. Women who were sexually active in their teens are less likely to form and sustain stable marriages. full details
For a look at how this all translates into the real world, see Mamacita’s A Teacher Tells The Truth About Your Kids And Sex.
My last few years in the middle school were spent largely chasing kids out of the bathroom of the opposite sex. Blowjobs were all the rage. It was all they could talk about. They even drew pictures and diagrams, of kids ‘doing it,’ or ‘how to do it’ for the uninitiated.Unpopular girls became suddenly popular. Early-developing boys were chased down the halls and solicited. It was sick. A time or two someone was actually caught in the act, but our principal had a hard time believing such things could happen at that age, and we had a really difficult time convincing her that yes, it was happening two or three dozen times a day. Nothing was ever done, because ‘the teacher must have just misinterpreted the situation and assumed the worst.’
Yes, it happened like that over and over. The parents were our worst problem, because they simply refused to believe their innocent child could possibly do that, and they became furious at the implication.And the middle school kids were giving, and getting, blowjobs all day.
When something like that becomes ‘cool,’, the ‘thing to do,’ because ‘everybody’s doing it,’ then it’s hard to explain to a kid that blowjobs are not the way to go at age thirteen. At thirteen, fourteen, hormones are overflowing and overwhelming, and there are no legitimate outlets. And then suddenly, there is one. And nobody gets pregnant, either. STD’s? VD? Not taught. Against community standards.
How progressive.
UPDATE: See also Parenting: Protection First, Love Second. If you aren’t protecting your kids, you aren’t loving them.
May 7, 2007 at 2:59 pm
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May 7, 2007 at 3:31 pm
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May 11, 2007 at 10:43 pm
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May 12, 2007 at 5:56 am
So let me ask a question that I like to drop at cocktail parties when this sort of thing crops up. Forgive the lack of links — it’s early — but I believe the assertions in the question are true:
As the post indicates, it does seem that kids are engaging in more oral sex than they did back in the day. However, the age of first intercourse in the United States is moving up. There is therefore a substitution effect at some level: at the margin oral sex may be a means for putting off first intercourse. So, my question is this: If you could snap your fingers and cause our teenagers to substitute every act of premarital or at least adolescent intercourse with, say, fully reciprocal oral sex (to deal with the “fairness” issue), would you do so?
May 14, 2007 at 12:06 pm
Every form of sex is sex, not a “substitute” for sex.
May 14, 2007 at 12:19 pm
All of your facts and figures, with the exception of #7, simply detail negative factors that contribute to increased sexual activity among young people, rather than, say, the negative consequences.
Yet your headline flips the causal chain and screams that sexual activity is “destroying little girls and boys”.
Surely you’re not trying to suggest that these statistics prove that teen sexual activity leads to parental divorce and separation?
Read your link again, sir.
May 14, 2007 at 12:35 pm
> Every form of sex is sex, not a “substitute” for sex.
That sounds like a “no”, but it sort of avoids the question. Let’s rephrase on TigerHawk’s behalf just to be sure:
“If you could snap your fingers and cause our teenagers to substitute every act of premarital or at least adolescent vaginal intercourse with, say, fully reciprocal oral sex (to deal with the “fairness” issue), would you do so?”
May 14, 2007 at 12:40 pm
Every form of sex is sex, not a “substitute” for sex.
I refer you to testimony in “Monicagate”, where none other than the sitting President said it “wasn’t real sex”…
June 5, 2007 at 6:33 pm
Ya, there is oral sex in middle schools. Get over it.
June 15, 2007 at 11:33 am
SD: Until Sharia is imposed.
A Muslim man in an Islamic country can be sure of a virgin bride who WILL stay faithful. And that his kids won’t be giving and getting blowjobs in school. When’s the last time you or me could say the same?
July 14, 2007 at 2:21 pm
Sorry sd, I’m not going to get over it. It’s destroying children, and I have a problem with it, and anybody who defends it has to do a little better than “get over it”.
Ken, you make comments like this often and I find them puzzling. Is this your way of advocating for Sharia or is it a tactic for taunting liberals?
July 14, 2007 at 2:32 pm
Dan:
post title: premature sex destroys little boys and little girls
#7: Youths who engage in sexual activity are at an increased risk for depression.
#10 Women who are sexually active in their teens are less likely to form stable marriages.
Perhaps you are just a very persnickity person and it bothers you that not every point referenced ties in directly with the title of the post. It also occurs to me that you might be someone who wants to argue that children are sexual beings who should be encouraged in developing their sexuality at an early age….if so, you should declare yourself, because we have much to discuss.
August 11, 2007 at 11:15 pm
#1: I think Ken makes a great point “A Muslim man in an Islamic country can be sure of a virgin bride who WILL stay faithful” - the trick, of course, is to get them before they’re old enough to reach puberty, as the benevolent dictator Mohammed showed (i.e., 9 year old Aiyesha/pre-pubescent sex slave, et al).
#2: And/or when you can’t do that, for one reason or another, you slice of their ‘button’, scrape their labia bloody raw and sew them together = Female Genital Mutilation, as practiced in many predominantly Muslim countries and performed on millions of ‘young girls’ (see #1) throughout Africa, etc. While I *do* understand that FGM predates Islam in Africa and “some Christian societies” also practice it, I would bet you 72 virgins that one can’t justify this practice in the Bible but it’s being routinely justified by ‘learned’ Imams.
#3: Islam sure keeps women virgin; at what price, Ken?
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August 19, 2007 at 10:42 pm
Very interesting!
September 10, 2007 at 4:47 pm
Regarding sex among children , there is no easy answer, but I think that parental or adult training will help children make good choices as they get older. Some believe abstinenece is the ideal sex education and promote it while others contend that kids will have sexual intercourse anyhow, so condoms should be available. I’m new to this forum so I’ll end with this thought. What is strongest sex organ in the body? The brain!
September 28, 2007 at 8:33 am
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October 22, 2007 at 3:36 pm
#3: Islam sure keeps women virgin; at what price, Ken?
FGM + Honor Killings = Virgin Brides who Stay Faithful.
Let me know when you find one in today’s America. I heard rumors that they once DID exist before The Sexual Revolution (TM).
November 9, 2007 at 10:09 am
Ken, Don,t the Islams kill there wives for not being faithful. And yes little girls like to be touched because it feels good. Just not a talked about issue untill now. But has been happening for years. And yes they have 9yr old brides and have babies early in life.
April 7, 2008 at 11:56 am
i think we can’t stop girls to do sex because is important in her lives and she prefers do it
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