Let’s Talk About Sex Baby, We’re Talking About You And Me…

February 5, 2008

This morning, Fausta hosted a terrific BlogTalk Radio podcast about men, women, relationships and sex (a topic inspired by this brilliant post).

Julie of Happy Catholic, Laurie Kendrick, Shane of Political Vindication and callers-in made for a lively and fascinating look at intimate relationships of all kinds.

We talked about men and women, how and when we successfully communicate and how and when we don’t. We discussed how friendship enhances intimacy and we discussed how intimacy without real friendship is destined to block real intimacy.

Most of us find it easy to forgive the differences we have with friends or their idiosyncrasies and imperfections. Why? Because they are our friends, and we love them. We don’t care about their religion, weight, color or ethnicity. We don’t even see those things.We are intimate with our closest friends in a most profound way.

It is also true that physical intimacy cannot ’speed up’ the friendship part of a relationship. There is a reason friendships take time to build. There can be no love if there is no trust or respect. Physical intimacy alone will not deepen the emotional part of a relationship. As Shane so succinctly noted, ‘Sex changes everything.‘No matter the ground rules, no matter the agreement, sex does change the dynamic in a relationship.

Physical intimacy will either enhance a solid platonic relationship that already exists or it will destroy a relationship that might have worked, had the physical intimacy been delayed.

We will have more to say on the subject tomorrow.

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6 Responses to “Let’s Talk About Sex Baby, We’re Talking About You And Me…”

  1. Julie D. Says:

    I will just say that Shane’s mother is a very wise woman and Shane, himself, strikes me as following in his mother’s footsteps (even though, Siggy, I know that he separated from her in order to mature … ).

    Ahhh, psychobabble, where would I be without it! ha!

  2. SC&A Says:

    “Ahhh, psychobabble, where would I be without it! ha!”

    Where would YOU BE?

    WHERE WOULD I BE????

  3. Fausta Says:

    It really was a pleasure to hear you talk about this, and even more so with Julie, Shane, the caller and the people in the chat joining in.

    Thank you, Siggy.


  4. Relationships are are so complex they’re simple. We all want love yet we go after it in the most unrealistic, contrary ways possible. When will we ever learn.

    As for you Gentlemen, I enjoyed appearing on the podcast with only one of you. Talk amongst yourselves to figure it out. Here, I’ll give you an alternative topic: Madison Square Garden is neither square nor a garden…

    Discuss.

    LK


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