A Teacher Tells The Truth About Your Kid and Sex

April 7, 2005

Mamacita, of Weekly Scheiss, has never been shy. As an educator (which means she knows a whole lot more about your kids than you do), she has seen it all. That in itself of course, is meaningless. While most teachers don’t give a damn about your kids, Mamacita does.

She is the kind of teacher you pray your kids have. Of course, in reality, that won’t happen. While there are a few good teachers in the system, there are even fewer Mamacitas. (She is available to save children from a life of indistinguished mediocrity. Contact us and we’ll see if we can be of any help. Yes, it costs lots of money.).

Mamacita is about to teach you about sex. That’s right, she’s going to teach you about sex- and she knows a whole lot more about sex and your kids than you do. That said, shut up, sit down, pay attention, take notes- and learn something.

Your kids may need you to just that.

Don’t get me wrong. I think sex is awesome. I think driving a car is pretty cool, too; but most people acknowledge that a driver must be of a certain age, so his maturity and size will match the mechanism of the car.

This theory ought to work for other things, too; but it doesn’t. Not any more.

Our children today are bombarded with sex. It’s all around them, and it isn’t in disguise, as it was back in the day. By which I mean, back in MY day.

Our children today know more about the lives of celebrities than about the lives of historical figures and relatives. Celebrities wear outfits that are deliberately and expensively designed to barely cover the subject, as it were. The tiny short shirts and low-cut pants worn by our children are immature imitations of the boob-exposing, thong-showing, transparent non-clothing of the stars.

Many children spend more time in front of the television, than they spend with their families. This is sometimes by circumstance, but more often, by choice. It is never by necessity. Children imitate the adults around them. That is how they learn. When children are exposed to adults who wear two rubber bands and a length of ribbon in public, those children will believe that is a proper thing to wear.

Jerry Springer is on tv at five in the afternoon here. Many children are alone in the house at that hour. They watch dysfunctional perverts and hillbillies scream and yell and talk about relationships and lifestyles that would grow hair on a peeled potato. With no adult around to forbid it, or to explain it, why would an impressionable kid not believe such are viable ways to live?

“But baby, it was dark, and your grandma looked just like you. . . . ” (hoot, hoot, hysterical laughter. . . . . .)

Parents themselves, even when home with a child, are often living examples of bad parenting and nonexistent social skills. Drunks, drug users, adulterers. . . . all in front of a child. Some kids don’t know these are not normal lifestyles until they come to school. Tiny kids often have the worst potty mouths imaginable, because kids learn to speak by imitating the adults around them. Some parents talk that way all the time, and don’t bother to change even when a little child is in the room. Every part of speech has a usage for the word “fuck” these days.

I know that people are tired of blaming Clinton for the rise in blowjob popularity, but it can’t all be a coincidence. When the President is able to rationalize his propensity for uncontrolled activities right within the White House walls by resorting to “I can’t help it; I have a problem; I’m an addict,” I believe the door was opened for a lot of other people to rationalize their behavior with that same pathetic excuse.

Life is full of choices. When people become adults, their ability to choose should have become mature, too. This isn’t happening much these days, and I really do believe that part of the reason for that is the incredible media coverage that celebrity adults are getting for their own immature choices. Harrison Ford, for crying out loud! He abandoned his wife and shacked up with a girl young enough to be his daughter, and the world applauded! Sick. Do you really want an aging and wrinkled Indiana Jones having sex with YOUR young daughter? Do you really?

I wonder about that. Maybe if people realized that all of these under-thirty girls who are hooking up with old men are someone’s daughter. . . . . it could be YOUR daughter. . . . is that really what you want for your child? To be the mistress of a dirty old man?

My last few years in the middle school were spent largely chasing kids out of the bathroom of the opposite sex. Blowjobs were all the rage. It was all they could talk about. They even drew pictures and diagrams, of kids ‘doing it,’ or ‘how to do it’ for the uninitiated.

Unpopular girls became suddenly popular. Early-developing boys were chased down the halls and solicited. It was sick. A time or two someone was actually caught in the act, but our principal had a hard time believing such things could happen at that age, and we had a really difficult time convincing her that yes, it was happening two or three dozen times a day. Nothing was ever done, because ‘the teacher must have just misinterpreted the situation and assumed the worst.’
Yes, it happened like that over and over. The parents were our worst problem, because they simply refused to believe their innocent child could possibly do that, and they became furious at the implication.

And the middle school kids were giving, and getting, blowjobs all day.

When something like that becomes ‘cool,’, the ‘thing to do,’ because ‘everybody’s doing it,’ then it’s hard to explain to a kid that blowjobs are not the way to go at age thirteen. At thirteen, fourteen, hormones are overflowing and overwhelming, and there are no legitimate outlets. And then suddenly, there is one. And nobody gets pregnant, either. STD’s? VD? Not taught. Against community standards.

Schools often do not have any kind of sex talk for kids this age. Parents refuse to believe it could ever be true. Communities are up in arms at the very thought. Teachers are helpless. And the students are giving and getting blowjobs in the bathrooms all day.

What is the solution? I don’t know. Parents have to work. Kids are going to watch whatever they can get by with. We did. They do.

It’s just that they can watch and get by with WAY more than we could. Mostly, I think, because they have access to so much more. They’ve seen it done, so they know how.

Because they are exposed to so much, it’s harder for them to wait, than it was for us. And it was hard for us.

They operate the machinery before they’ve read the manual.

The exception, for our time, is the rule, now.

This is not a good thing. I’m all for healthy outlets, but not at age thirteen.

I’ve seen heartache. Heartbreak. Disillusionment. All at way too young an age.

The experiences we had at seventeen and eighteen, kids have now at twelve, thirteen, fourteen. What’s left for seventeen and eighteen?

Society has given the finger of approval for things that, only a few years ago, would have been given just the finger.

What is the answer? I wish I knew. I’m not even sure I know what the question is.

But I do know that we’d better find out both before it’s too late. I hope it’s not already too late, for our kids, and theirs.

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  2. Linda F Says:

    And the idiots that claim to be feminists just talk about teen lust and female empowerment. They aren’t there when the bravado fades, and the girls (and boys) are sitting there sobbing about how they thought their special one cared about them – and how devastated they are now, when they realize they were just a cheap thrill. One that was laughed about with the cool kids.

    They want to die. And some of them do.

  3. Prudence Goodwife Says:

    “they thought their special one cared about them”

    Can’t we find some way to keep the kids from experiencing heartbreak till they are in their 30′s. It is so much easier to learn life lessons when you are all grown up, this way no one will ever feel like they want to die as an adult.

    God always cares, doesn’t he?

  4. Dan Says:

    > And the idiots that claim to be feminists just talk about teen lust and female empowerment.

    Huh. Which “idiots that claim to be feminists” just can’t help but always go on and on about teen lust? I guess haven’t been paying close enough attention. Could you name names?

  5. SC&A Says:

    Sure.

    Every feminist that refuses to speak out against the over sexualization of children, the portrayal of children as sexual objects, etc.

    I could get into the few feminists who bother to address FGM or who forge ties with misogynistic ideologues, but I fear that might be a bit out of your depth.

  6. aimai Says:

    This is truly hysterical, in every sense of the word. IT is filled with some many unintentionally funny moments that they are almost too numerous to list–kids are “getting and giving blow jobs every minute?–not unless boys have changed a lot they aren’t. I doubt seriously if any girls are “getting” blow jobs but I defer to mamacita’s wisdom on this one. There is sexual and sexist graffitti in the bathrooms? Man, *that* never happened before! or maybe in Mamacita’s day the pictographs were more elevating?

    As for the drive by attack on feminists and feminism. I”m lucky enough to send my children to a progressive school where feminism is taught along with the comprehensive sex education that Mamacita thinks “community standards” in her benighted community would disallow. Incredibly enough–no graffitti in the bathrooms, no kids giving blow jobs there either! It sounds to me like the communities where she has worked are that peculiar american mix of prurience and puritanism reign. Communities in which children are treated as hypothetical angels devoid of desire and hope and fear as long as they are invisible, and as demons of our unconcious, fully sexualized and dangerous when they are seen as problematic. The truth is somewhere in the middle. There are lots of kids from dysfunctional families because dysfunctional families come from every sector of our society–left, right, and indifferent to politics, rich, middle and poor, non religious and deeply religious. They all can be dysfunctional and abusive of their members and they all dump their kids into our public school system and beg for help.

    I couldn’t agree more with Mamacita’s rather banal observation that our children are being marketed to and sexualized by large corporations. IT is trivially obvious that both boys and girls are being subjected to a bombarding of advertising and images aimed at glorifying stupidity, sexuality, violence, and mindless authoritarianism–and I’m just talking about the pro-army slots I’ve watched on regular TV!–but what this has to do with feminism or that lurking demon “The left” is beyond me. Rupert Murdoch, one of the chief purveyors of this garbage? Big republican backer. And if Paris Hilton and Jenna and Barbara (frequently seen drunk in public) Bush are “feminists” or liberals of any kind I’ll eat my hat.

  7. Dan Says:

    My response to SC&A yesterday seems to have never been posted (due, no doubt, to an inordinate number of links I was using to make my point).

    Let’s try it again, delinked…

    > Every feminist that refuses to speak out against the over sexualization of children, the portrayal of children as sexual objects, etc.

    That so very few feminists can be bothered to object to the sexualization of young girls is indeed shameful…

    http://www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi?f=/c/a/2007/02/26/EDGC7N72QC1.DTL
    feministing.com/archives/006566.html
    feministlawprofs.law.sc.edu/?p=1792
    feministlawprofs.law.sc.edu/?p=1552
    feministlawprofs.law.sc.edu/?p=913
    http://www.arsepoetica.com/blog/2007/02/this_just_in_se.html
    lechappee.blogspot.com/2007/02/sexualization-of-girls-us.html
    http://www.rhrealitycheck.org/blog/2007/02/27/we-hate-bratz
    lawgeek.typepad.com/lawgeek/2006/12/the_princess_di.html
    fshk.net/blog/index.php?p=247
    http://www.amptoons.com/blog/archives/2007/02/20/sexualized-images-in-media-harm-women-and-girls-duh/
    feministfigure.blogspot.com/2006/08/jonbenet-jill-greenberg.html
    bluemilk.wordpress.com/2007/02/20/no-really-kill-a-bratz-doll-today/
    http://www.guardian.co.uk/gender/story/0,,2018474,00.html
    ourbodiesourblog.org/blog/2007/02/everyday_images_apa_report_details_the_conseq_1.php
    echidneofthesnakes.blogspot.com/2007_03_01_archive.html#7793225870424453595
    girlistic.com/blog/blogs/index.php?blog=2&title=duh_of_the_day_1&more=1&c=1&tb=1&pb=1
    girlistic.com/blog/blogs/index.php?blog=2&title=news_roundup_women_s_sexual_health&more=1&c=1&tb=1&pb=1
    taylored.wordpress.com/2007/02/28/zits/

    (In the original iteration of the comment, each of the words above was, in good ironic fashion, to be linked to one of the URLs below. But so it goes; you’ll have to copy and paste, I guess.)

    > I could get into the few feminists who bother to address FGM or who forge ties with misogynistic ideologues, but I fear that might be a bit out of your depth.

    Ahh. And that’s some tasty ad hominem right there, Siggy.

  8. SC&A Says:

    Lets examine this.

    Why are there more column inches and websites devoted to feminist ‘issues’ that are political in nature than there are column inches devoted to issues like FGM?

    According to the UN, over 100 million women have been affected by FGM. That might merit more than a few posts by bloggers. Where is NOW? Why aren’t they pushing that agenda on CNN, day and night? Or are 100 million mutilated women not enough?

    Why aren’t feminists on the media day and night, outraged by honor killings, acid attacks, or the beating of women on a regular basis in some societies? Or does the fact that they share ideologies somehow mitigate that evil?

    Why aren’t the mainstream women’s organizations not demanding advertisers pull heir money from teen magazines that oversexualize teenage girls? Or do you that that’s a good idea?

    It’s terrific that there are bloggers and MSM articles that occasionally publish the reality, but that is no different than the righteous whiners that watched as over a million died in Rwanda and have watched as the civil war in Darfur has killed over 2 million.

    The reality is clear and no amount of dancing can change that.

  9. Dan Says:

    Wow.

    > Why aren’t they pushing that agenda on CNN, day and night?… Why aren’t feminists on the media day and night, outraged by honor killings, acid attacks, or the beating of women on a regular basis in some societies?…

    In spite of all the anti-feminist rhetoric, you seem to hold a pretty high opinion of their influence.

    It isn’t enough that they devote their time and resources to countless urgent domestic concerns (honestly, American feminists have quite enough on their plates just in the domain of reproductive health and freedom—defending Roe and fighting back against the religious right over the availability of Plan B and the HPV vaccine—but I suppose you might write such practical “feminist ‘issues’” off as “political in nature”). No. You seem to expect them to, by sheer force of will, also leverage the mighty power of the American media to end a millennia-old practice sometime in between cable news reports on Anna Nicole Smith and record gas prices.

    That would be something, wouldn’t it?

    But even if feminists somehow had unfettered access to the agendas of our male- and conservative-dominated mass media, and even if CNN producers were somehow game to indulge an all-clitoridectomy-all-the-time format, how successful do you think they would ultimately be in helping enforce existing anti-FGM laws on the local level in the myriad African, Arab and Muslim societies where the tradition carries on in secret?

    Certainly no more successful than, say, long-standing and locally-focused educational programs (www.tostan.org ) and other practical on-the-ground efforts (www.tinyurl.com/326287 ).

    (And all this is setting aside the general fact that it’s little more than a non sequitur to suggest that a broad swathe of individuals are morally unserious simply because they’ve failed to articulate outrage on a single particular issue loud enough for you to hear it.)

    > …Or does the fact that they share ideologies somehow mitigate that evil?

    Oh, wait. I see.

    The ladies are simply holding their tongues due to a deep-seated desire to live under Sharia law.

    Fair enough. Does their leftist perfidy know no end?

  10. Mooser Says:

    It is unlike Mamacita to pontificate about the degenerating morals of our youth today when a simple and practical solution exists. Today’s little girl’s bodies reach sexual maturity earlier than their little minds can cope with the choices necessitated by sexual activity. If you get my meaning. Why are our little girls such paragons of pulchritude? To what can we ascribe this almost malevalent magnitude of improper relations? It’s not TV, It’s not Bill Clinton (really, I swear it!) it’s SOY! Yes SOY! Soy, you see, when absorbed in larger quantities, (and they put soy in everything!) LOWERS THE AGE OF FIRST MENSES!!!
    And thus the present situation whhence girls of tender years, who should be saving their most impassioned predilictions for a horse (Can I have him, Daddy, Pleasee, please) instead wants a stud of her own.
    Oh, you know what I mean!
    Anyway, there it is, get rid of the soy, and watch our little girls get moral again.
    Allowing soy to be used indiscriminately on under-aged girls will come to be seen as one of the great dietary crimes of history.

  11. Mooser Says:

    Get rid of the Soy, and you’ll get rid of the boys!! That’s what I meant to say.
    If you have girls. What to do about the little predators we call male adolescents, I have no idea. Saltpetre?


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  13. Robert Says:

    So now we (re)learn the reasons why sexual relations among minors have undesirable effects on those affected, and why our ancestors long ago instituted laws against it. I hope these reasons why children should refrain from sex until they are adults start getting taught, and that others won’t have to wait until the age of 37 to learn the rationale for the first time.

  14. rationalpsychic Says:

    I’ll throw my lot in with aimai and Dan. The first time I heard of female genital mutilation was in a Women’s Studies class. I think that such folks have tried to make the very issues you (SC & A) address more prominent. The constant chattering of people like Limbaugh and his “feminazi” rhetoric forces those of us who are feminists to even have to justify our existence.

  15. Wacky Hermit Says:

    I believe the phenomenon of making “important” work for yourself to do, when trying to put off working on something that’s truly important, is called “vacuuming the cat”. In this case, the feminists’ defenders protest that they have so much work to do in fending off the hordes of unwashed anti-abortion zombies out to eat their brains and keeping millions of people from climbing up inside their uteri, that they have not had time to devote to the truly important stuff like FGM and honor killings. I say that if they truly believe that, then time devoted to stuff that isn’t truly important is “vacuuming the cat”.

    If it were truly important, you wouldn’t waste time on “chattering”. Although, being a woman, in my experience that’s what most women do– waste time in idle chatter and pissing contests.

  16. anniebird Says:

    It’s disheartening to read that Aimai thinks those of us who seek to protect the natural innocence of children are part of “communities in which children are treated as hypothetical angels devoid of desire and hope and fear as long as they are invisible, and as demons of our unconcious, fully sexualized and dangerous when they are seen as problematic”. The mistaken thinking here is emblematic of the terrible narcissism that grips our culture: ‘Since as an adult, I have sexual aspirations, so too must my child’.

    Indeed, children have desires, hopes and fears -they just aren’t yours, Aimai. As for the “fully sexualized part” – I dearly wish I were imagining that children are being shoved towards an adult sexual reality by wayward parents and a social climate that pushes the “enlightenment” you suggest, but the scantily clad preteen girls wagging their backsides as they sashay past my family at the ice cream shop are making it harder and harder to deny.

    The language used is carefully crafted to permit the adult to feel that what s/he is encouraging is actually beneficial for the child, (it’s PROGRESSIVE!) but in the end, it’s still just lipstick on a pig. Adults who focus and re-focus young children on sexuality while insisting that children should “empower” themselves sexually through dress, behavior and sexual intimacy are using children recklessly and selfishly. I’m sure the reasons for such pathology are many, but the result is consistent – it is the child who pays for the indulgence of the adult, and it’s shameful.

  17. Dirty Old Tran Says:

    I just need directions to that school.

  18. Biff Spaceman Says:

    Blowjobs! Blowjobs! Blowjobs! The horror of it all. And all those children were how old during the Republican Pornography Appreciation Program? It is 2007 now, so maybe they were 4 in 1999?
    Setting aside the hormones, chemical pollutants and toxins in everyday life, are the kids of that age in your experience really so profligate that they are copulating and fellating each other with such frequency that a bathroom monitoring policy was necessary? This just sounds like a comedy sketch or a satire. My nephew is not having that kind of fun. My co-worker’s son is hormonally exploding and he doesn’t get that kind of excitement at school or at home. Where do you live that this is happening? Is this a localized phenomena, like Paris Hilton Junior High? Is there perhaps a benefit that the tweeners are into the oral in that they aren’t breeding like rats? What is really going on in this purported reality of yours?

  19. ciocia Says:

    Truly, I thought the common conservative criticism of feminism was that it was “antisex.” Now SC&A claims they are not sufficiently, 24/7 antisex enough. Gee, even 2 bit burglers can get their stories straight. Why can’t you?

  20. SC&A Says:

    ciocia: What EXACTLY are you talking about? Can you make a cogent argument, or are half assed obtuse and irrelevant remarks the beast you can do?

    Further, if you had actually read the post (I will assume there were too many big words for you), you would know that I did not write the post.

  21. ciocia Says:

    “Why aren’t the mainstream women’s organizations not demanding advertisers pull heir (sic) money from teen magazines that oversexualize teenage girls? Or do you that that’s a good idea?”

    You DID write that one, didn’t you? The one that says feminists do not nag the media night and day about the sexualization of teenage girls? THAT’S the one I was referring to. First, conservatives have argued that feminists were joyless and anti-sex. Now, they may be against the objectification of women, but not all the time, which seems to be a contradiction on the part of conservatives. And my arguments are a good deal more cogent than your spelling.

  22. SC&A Says:

    Interesting to note that my typos are more of an issue for you than the point raised.

    Is that a ‘cogent argument’ in your world?

    Not all “conservatives have argued that feminists were joyless and anti-sex..” That is a projection on your part, so that you might justify your ideologies and thus negate other realities. See Ilana Mercer, here, for an examples of reality other than your own:

    http://www.lbduk.org/male%20bashing%20in%20academe.htm

    As far as your other arguments go, they are irrelevant. Notwithstanding the self esteem trophy awarded to you in public school.

    That said, feel free to make your case by highlighting my typos.

  23. Noprthern Observer Says:

    Blaming femenism for this kind of stuff is so misdirected. It’s like bleeding a patient to stop a fever, useless at best, counter productive at worst. This kind of stuff has more to do with the economy and the demands it places on modern families who have no time for their families. But doing something about that means standing up to the most powerful elements in our society and forcing them to contribute more to the community as a whole. Not easy. Far easier to attack a convenient scapegoat.

    PS- as if genital mutilation is an issue where the right has more moral authority. The entire issue was exposed and worked on by leftists human rights organizations long before some right winger thought it made nice copy to accuse feminists of “not doing enough” BS

  24. Eleanor Says:

    Notwithstanding the self esteem trophy awarded to you in public school.

    Ha ha ha ha! Win!

  25. anniebird Says:

    Biff Spaceman, since you clearly have no direcet experience (we heard about your nephew and your co-worker’s kid…not yours), I suggest you defer to the experience of someone living it (Mamacita, the author of the post being discussed). Or, check the news:

    http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-srv/style/features/students070899.htm

    As for the feeble-minded assertion that encouraging kids to have oral sex is a form of birth control, I’d encourage you to depart from lowest common denominator thinking. The message to kids should be to reach for their highest, best selves – to become people who are respectful of and reverent towards their bodies. Kids need to learn that by adulthood, they will have the tools to be responsible for the emotional and physical health of themselves, their partners and the children created through sexual activity, and that sex is something made wonderful by the presence of those qualities.

    Any other approach is empty and leaves the parties impoverished, whether they want to admit it or not.

  26. anniebird Says:

    almost forgot this little gem – make sure you read to the bottom, Biff, where the alarming rate of increase in oral sex among kids aged 12-25 is discussed:

    http://www.cdc.gov/STDConference/2006/media/day2.htm

    welcome to reality, spaceman.

  27. TR Says:

    Yes, it was Clinton who turned our news networks into a nonstop discussions of blowjob and Clinton who ground the government to a stop to talk about a blowjob.

    All Clinton. What an evil genius.

  28. Richterscale Says:

    # TR Says:
    August 13th, 2007 at 5:18 pm

    Yes, it was Clinton who turned our news networks into a nonstop discussions of blowjob and Clinton who ground the government to a stop to talk about a blowjob.

    All Clinton. What an evil genius.

    I couldn’t agree more, TR.

    I wonder if on his death bed, he will finally tell the world how he got Kenneth Starr and the republican congress to play along with his diabolical plans?

  29. nv Says:

    “the alarming rate of increase in oral sex among kids aged 12-25″

    Umm, as a 25 year-old, I wonder why I am included in that study. I kind of feel like a consenting adult, dig?

    Of course, I suppose I’ve been contributing to that rate increase for ten or eleven years…

  30. nv Says:

    “the alarming rate of increase in oral sex among kids aged 12-25″

    Umm, as a 25 year-old, I wonder why I am included in that study. I kind of feel like a consenting adult, dig?

    Of course, I suppose I’ve been contributing to that rate increase for ten or eleven years…

  31. saurabh Says:

    This is a BIT late, but a reply to anniebird’s recommendation of the CDC – that figure is for 12-25 year olds attending Baltimore-area STD clinics. That number should be expected to have very low relation to the general prevalence of oral sex. The number is not based on a random sample of students, etc.

  32. ScottS Says:

    “So now we (re)learn the reasons why sexual relations among minors have undesirable effects on those affected, and why our ancestors long ago instituted laws against it.”

    This is ignorant. At the time of our “ancestors” most people hit puberty in their mid-teens and were married within a few years. There is a vast difference between sexually aware teens and innocent children, although both are “minors” — heck, there is a pretty big difference between a typical 14 year old and a typical 16 year old when it comes to possibly being ready for sex. There are risks in early sexual activity that are worth discouraging, but if kids are hitting puberty at 12 and won’t be ready to marry until their mid-20s, there is going to be tons of premarital sexual activity, and (not that the original post touched on this) the uptight religious folk are just going to have to live with blowjobs, at the very least.

    Hysteria and presumption really don’t do much for debate; I’d prefer any children in my care not have the self-righteous, overgeneralizing Mamacita as part of their educational diet, thank you.

  33. anniebird Says:

    Gee, Scott, you almost sound like a guy who’d be able to rationalize sex with a 16 year old because she’s “possibly ready for sex”.

    I guess it’s only natural that you’d be willing to dismiss those laws protecting the sexually under-served teenagers of the world, huh.

  34. djteel Says:

    Speaking asa psychologist,There have been several studies regarding oral sex in the schools and regarding teens directly.in fact this morning here in dallas,one of our local talk shows,featured this topic of oral sex and preteens and a group of teens spoke with the host for an hour.this wasn’t made up or done (simply)for ratings purposes..these were real teens who know what’s going on in the world of teens(at least in the usa) and definitely convincing!

    i’ve seen many special programs regarding oral sex and today’s teens and a large amount of raeding on this issue and there is definitely an alarming amount of teens participating in oral sex on a frequent or routine basis in the usa/
    you morons who want to argue this point obviously either see this as a non issue or merely believe that even if it’s true it’s acceptable/.
    it’s a bad thing!! period!! the result= these kids will sooner than later require psychiatric counseling/ if not already in that state/.

  35. Jeff Says:

    I sat, mouth agape and dropping further with each post, as I read comments about feminism and anti-feminism, FGM, condemnation of political affiliation (mostly anti-conservative), and the like.

    It seems to me that most of the posts here have departed from the topic; most are more interested in pushing a different agenda, or slamming others’ positions.

    Or making statements that the situation isn’t as bad as it is made out to be, because “My nephew is not having that kind of fun. My co-worker’s son is hormonally exploding and he doesn’t get that kind of excitement at school or at home.” That’s direct knowledge for you.

    And, aimai says she sends her kids to a progressive (!?) school where “Incredibly enough–no graffitti in the bathrooms, no kids giving blow jobs there either!” Were she a teacher at that school (and therefore a credible source of facts about the facility), I would have expected a different verb than “sends.”

    Where is the concern for the kids? Yes, children have “evolved” (adapted) in society, coming to accept that vaginal intercourse is no longer as acceptable as, say, 20 years ago. But I doubt they are CALCULATING risk, but rather reacting to new social norms that have evolved from decades of being told it is wrong. “My parents would KILL me if I got pregnant!” Sounds like risk analysis, but smacks of widespread conditioning.

    Yes, they are subjected to a ever-widening panorama of mature themes on TV and in the entertainment world in general. Yes, something in the food (soy? Not so sure about that, but hormones, maybe?) is making them develop earlier. Yes their bodies are ready earlier. But are their minds? I think that the mere fact that there are several years between maturity and marriage does not lead infallibly to the conclusion that there MUST be loads of sex in the interim.

    But where are the parents? Does it take constant monitoring to prevent this trend, or is it possible to sit down with your kid and provide a little advice and wisdom?

    My sixth grader and her friend were recently asked “do you swallow?” on the bus. Nobody knows if the boys involved even knew what that meant, truly or even superficially. But education was in order, and the establishment of the family’s interpretation for what is correct and acceptable. It didn’t take constant oversight, only a little time out of our day for a heart-to-heart.

    I am at a loss to understand how a parent can dismiss early activity because of their own political or idealistic views. Must the child suffer the consequences when this position turns out to be harmful? Doctors are speaking out about the increase in certain STDs, but the statistics say that early vaginal intercourse is on the decline.

    And if there was any uncertainty about the repercussions of allowing the behavior, would it not be wiser to teach the cautious approach of abstinence, to delay the potential result until the child HAS developed the intellect, the ability to calculate and understand risk, and the wisdom to make the decision for themselves?

    And since the responses in this post, those which are protecting feminism, appear to be arguing the relevance of the article, I want to pose an observation… how many single moms are feminists? Might young girls exposed to feminism be more likely to engage in behaviors that can produce offspring, since the significance of “waiting for marriage” is diminished? (But that’s a departure from the topic, and surely is not categorically true. But I wonder at the repercussions…)

    And tell me – when did society change, that preventing careless, uninformed, early-onset sex in teens (and preteens!) become an initiative of “uptight religious folk”? I admit that I may be biased as a church-goer, but I don’t think that teaching kids to abstain until they are MENTALLY prepared to make those decisions is a strictly religious tenet. I know plenty of parents that are agnostic and still believe 12 and 13 is too young. So let’s not categorize preventative measures as “uptight” or “religious,” as it is not limited to either, but a blatant attempt to discredit religion and religious morals – frankly, an insult.

  36. globe Says:

    We are all victims of “creep”. The longer we allow things to happen the longer they WILL happen and the longer other things become more acceptable.

  37. Headless Unicorn Guy Says:

    According to the UN, over 100 million women have been affected by FGM. That might merit more than a few posts by bloggers. Where is NOW? Why aren’t they pushing that agenda on CNN, day and night? Or are 100 million mutilated women not enough?

    Why aren’t feminists on the media day and night, outraged by honor killings, acid attacks, or the beating of women on a regular basis in some societies?

    Remember that a man in those same “some societies” is pretty much assured of a virgin bride who WILL stay faithful. (When was the last time any of us here in America could expect the same?) I haven’t heard of “middle school kids giving, and getting, blowjobs all day” where FGM and Honor Killings are normal.

  38. Not bill gates Says:

    Its people like you that make me sick. You think you know absolutely everything in the world and how it should work. Children should not be coddled but also should not get pregnant . You need balance to raise a child. Just look at icarly a child tv show (that i do not own). A shupid farce of stupid kid slapstick comedy and at the same time white trash softcore porn on a basic level. This show airs on nickalodion. Or the playstation video game littlebig planet, e rated (and not mine!) game that both appeals to children with ragdoll esque caracters, yet the word sexy is used in the first level. It is bad i agree but ranting like this is not helping anyone mrs/mr dr. Phill of the year!!!


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